Asking yourself questions is one of the most powerful ways to discovering who you really are and what really matters to you. We just assume we know who we are. Some time, that assumption is based on what we are doing not on who we are being. I remember the first time someone asked me the question "who are you"? it was a deer in headlights moment for me, because I honestly did not know how to answer that question. I could talk about everything else I "thought" I knew, but couldn't answer to how well I knew myself, that troubled me. That is when I began to question EVERYTHING.
Socrates, the Greek Philosopher, said "an unexamined life is not worth living." He also said "to find yourself you must think for yourself" and more importantly "KNOW THY SELF". Those quotes literally changed my life, the way I think and what I thought I believed. I thought about the many things I was raised to believe about a particular thing and realized how untrue those things turned out to be for me. In examining my own life, I learned how my life experiences had a big part in shaping who I thought I was. In essence my quest to know my self brought me to the conclusion that I just did not know what I did not know ABOUT ME.
I now know, the only way to know anything is to ask questions. Everything else is nothing more than an assumption. Even when it comes to your own life. I wonder, what might you be assuming to know about who you are? How do you know you are who you say you are, or who others perceive that you are, based on what you are projecting to them? No one else can tell you who you are. The best they can do is to talk about what their experience has been with you and relay what they "think" about who you were to them in those experiences.
Asking yourself questions is about connecting you to your essential self
You get to the root of who you are the same way you get to the root of anything else you want to know more about. You reSearch and go on a quest to gather information and intel about a thing. In this case, about you. A quest is an investigation, a pursuit, a search for the truth. Picture this, you are sitting in an interrogation room across from you. It is you asking you questions about you.
Here are 10 questions to start with, that will change your life and reveal to you things you may not have known about yourself (if you answer them honestly):
What would you stand for if you knew you would not be judged for it?
Who would you be if it were possible to be that person when you wake up tomorrow morning? What does that reveal to you?
What do you not want anybody to know about you?
What are 3 things you thought you would not survive while you were going through them? How did you ultimately get through them?
What would be too good to believe if you were told what was coming next in your life?
Who in your life are you still trying to earn love and acceptance from?
If you did not have to work another day in your life, what would you do with your time?
What are you holding against yourself? Why can't you let it go?
If you were to walk through your life and touch everything single thing you own, how many of them would make you feel at peace? Why do you keep the rest?
What bothers you most about the world? What one thing would you change if given the lever of power to do so?
What do you love most about yourself? (Keep probing until you are delivered to a new way of seeing yourself).
Where are you right this moment? Not physically, but emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and financially?
What do you tell yourself about yourself?
Who are you when no one is looking?