Choosing self over ambition is a courageous act of self-care and there needs to be a lot more of that.
I applaud Simone Biles' decision not to compete in the 2020 Olympics. She chose her own good over the pursuit of gold. Choosing to hold her own well-being sacred was a profoundly courageous act of self-care. In her choice, she set a powerful example that worshipping at the altar of achievement should never trump what you need to give to yourself.
But just like everything else, that story has moved on just as teachable moment stories always do. We acknowledge for a moment what we all know we need, particularly when we find out that the celebrated and famous are not as invincible as we'd like to think they are. We publicly applaud their actions while we privately resonate their pain. I thought it was interesting how Simone indicated she didn't realize her own greatness outside of celebrity and, that all of her achievements were not enough to make her feel like she was enough. How many times do we choose what is expected, over what we know is in our best interest? Who told us we needed to carry the burden of other folks' expectations? And why does it take a break in our mental stability before we realize our only responsibility is to be ourselves, as authentically as we have the courage to be.
We don't owe perpetual achievement to anyone. We don't owe any explanation as to why we feel the urgency to turn towards our own selves and nurture our own needs. When will we learn that we are the only ones we cannot live without.
“A lot of the conflict you have in your life exists simply because you're not living in alignment; you're not be being true to yourself.” ~ Steve Maroboli
It doesn't matter how many fans or followers we have. If we constantly betray ourselves, we will eventually break. We cannot give our all to the pressure or the pursuit of pleasing others at the expense our ourselves.
The achievement of a goal or another piece of gold won't give us the gift of being enough. Enough is not being as much of or having as many of something. Enough is knowing that no matter what, at any given moment you are all you need to be. When you do not feel that, it is because you you don't think that. And that, my friend, is the basis of a mental break.
It doesn't matter who others think you are, what matters is who you think you are. Mental comes from the Latin mentalis which means mind. Our thoughts are directly connected to the state of our mind or mental health.
When you feel compelled to do something or be a certain someone for the sake of others, examine the thoughts that are powering those actions.
“For every one person who praises you, there are a hundred who would criticize. Heed neither the one nor the hundred. It is your own opinion that truly matters. ~Richelle E. Goodrich